Thank You Cancer for Showing Me How to Live

At 31, my life turned upside down in an instant. Being diagnosed with cancer was a shock that changed everything. Now, ten years later, I’m a three-time cancer survivor, and my perspective on life has dramatically shifted. Surviving something I thought would kill me has given me a new outlook.

One of the biggest changes is letting go of the little things. I used to stress over trivial matters, but now I see how insignificant they are. For instance, I used to dread the long commute to work. Stuck in traffic for hours, I’d feel my frustration build and wondered if all of this was worth it. After my second diagnosis, I realized life is too short to spend it doing something that doesn’t bring joy or fulfillment. So, I made a bold decision: I left my job, moved from the Midwest to the West Coast, and created my own business as a cancer coach. I began helping women who have been or are going through cancer treatment find and thrive in their new normal. It was scary, but it turned out to be one of the best decisions of my life.

This change wasn’t just about avoiding a commute or a change of scenery; it was about aligning my work with my passions and values. Every day I support and empower other women on their cancer journeys. It’s incredibly fulfilling and has given my life a new sense of purpose.

Another example is my attitude toward people who might be rude or cut me off in traffic. Before, I’d get annoyed and let it ruin my day. Now, I remind myself they might have something serious going on. Maybe they’re rushing to a hospital or dealing with their own challenges. This shift has made me more patient and compassionate, which feels so much better than holding onto anger.

My view on life and death has also changed. I’ve accepted that we all have an end, but how we live until then is what truly matters. Since I can’t create more time, I value it above all else. Time spent helping others, working with my clients, and cherishing moments with friends and family means everything to me. I value the time and attention people give me.

My spiritual side has grown too. I believe the universe has a plan for me to live and give back. Whether it’s through my work with survivors or offering hope, I feel a purpose in helping others. Even the tiny choices we make can have a significant impact on others.

Cancer has given my life more meaning. I’ve found joy in helping others navigate their own cancer journeys. Knowing that my experiences can offer comfort and guidance to others is incredibly fulfilling.

Looking back, I see how much cancer has changed me. If I hadn’t been diagnosed, I might still be caught up in trivial concerns that used to seem so important. Now, I see the world with new eyes, appreciating the preciousness of time and the importance of living with purpose.

For example, I used to think success was defined by career achievements and material possessions. But now, I believe it’s about the quality of our relationships, our impact on others, and being comfortable with our choices. This realization has led me to simplify my life, focusing on experiences and connections rather than accumulating things.

Cancer shifted my perspective in ways I never expected. While I wouldn’t wish this journey on anyone, it has shaped me into someone who deeply values life and strives to make the most of every moment. It’s taught me resilience, gratitude, and the power of a positive mindset. Every day is a gift, and I’m determined to make the most of it.

I’ve also learned to prioritize self-care. Going through cancer treatments was incredibly tough on my body and mind. Now, I make sure to take care of myself through regular exercise, a healthy diet, and mindfulness practices like meditation and journaling. My self-care routine helps me stay grounded and resilient, ready to face whatever comes my way.

If I could go back and change things, would I choose a life without cancer? It’s a tricky question. On one hand, cancer almost killed me, not once but three times. But on the other hand, it led me to profound growth and transformation. Cancer and everything that came from it is a part of my story now, and I’m proud of how I’ve come through it stronger and more compassionate.

Every challenge we face has the potential to teach us something valuable. Cancer was my challenge, and it taught me to live with intention, appreciate the present moment, and strive to make a positive impact in the world. For that, I’m incredibly grateful.